5 Relationship Tips That’ll Help Make Your Romance Flourish
John V.
Posted On August 24, 2020
1. Make daily deposits in your relationship bank.
Offering to pick up dinner, making the bed, or leaving the lights on when your partner is coming home late are all small things you can do to grow your relationship bank account. But make sure to do this when you and your partner already have enough cushion in your savings. The best time to do this is when things are going wellp. This provides a cushion for when external stressors impede on the relationship. It’s like having a savings account for when you get sick, and you’ve used all of your sick time. You still have money to pay your bills, and you don’t have to go without.
2. Learn your and your partner’s love languages.
While Dr. Gary Chapman wrote the book, The Five Love Languages, to describe the five ways in which people communicate love, Gatling explained that we tend to automatically speak our language and expect our partner to “hear” it. Instead, it’s important to learn your partner’s love language to intentionally speak and give the kind of love your S.O. will understand and not miss or overlook.
3. Ask this important question every day.
I started asking my boyfriend at the end of every day, “What went well today?” Instead of complaining about all of the day’s frustrations, which I’m definitely guilty of, this question readjusts your thinking. I’ve found asking my boyfriend this question often leads to interesting conversations that last throughout our dinner together. Who knows, we may even start a gratitude jar next.
4. Schedule weekly date nights.
There’s a difference between being in the same room and actually spending quality time together.
Date night doesn’t need to be an expensive venture.
5. Take time for your own self-care.
If you aren’t feeling balanced and healthy, then you’re significantly less likely to be present in your relationship and are more susceptible to projecting things onto your partner. A lack of self-care doesn’t lend itself to conflict resolution or effective communication.
