Do You Know How To Say NO?
There are many people on this Planet, and all of us are quite different. We aren’t only different in appearance, we are also mentally different. Some of us choose to survive life, while some of us choose to live life to the fullest. We are diverse. I’ve often heard that people complain about people, and in this text, I want to write something about “us.” I’m sure that each of us has some people in their environment whom we ALLOW making our lives difficult, or we aren’t happy because we have to be around with some people who “don’t fit us.”
I deliberately wrote the word ALLOW in capital letters, because I think that only someone can make our lives difficult if we only allow it. It’s always up to us. It’s up to our choice again. What do you choose?
I often have heard that many people complain about colleagues at work. I claim that much depends on your attitude to others and what you all allow. I have learned so much about people through my work. Looking from my present perspective to my past, I think I often had a wrong attitude, and so I allowed some things. Whose fault is it? I am responsible for my life. I have chosen that. I can tell you that I have learned a lot from these situations, as well as about human relationships. I am grateful to all these people because of which I am who I am. I like myself just as I am. I am a person who loves to work, but I don’t longer allow anyone to underestimate me, I don’t longer allow much of what I did before, and I even learned to say NO. I have the feeling that we sometimes forget what our basic human rights are. I think that every person always does what she thinks is right at a given time. Start by yourself.
I am sure that each of us made wrong decisions for which he repended or maybe say something wrong to someone and felt bad about this. Try to remember situations like this. At that moment, you were doing what you thought was right. Would you do it otherwise?
Do you know what can make your situation easier if you have problems with some people? Try to understand them. Try to find out what’s behind their behavior. Just imagine, if a person is treating you so unfairly and that is what she knows best, what kind of past did she have? What beliefs were instilled in her?
After all, it is up to you what you will allow, what you will choose and who you will try to understand…
„If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change“- Wayne Dyer
Lejla Motoruga