Grey’s Anatomy actress Ellen Pompeo faced major criticism onlinewhen a clip from July 2018 resurfaced in which she comments on Harvey Weinstein and his accusers – saying it ‘two to tango’.
The 50-year-old Grey’s Anatomy actress did a Q&A session at Oxford Union in which she spoke about the scandal surrounding the producer, who’s currently serving 23 years in his rape conviction in New York, and how the women he preyed upon figured into it.
‘I think we bear some responsibility, not all, but it takes two to tango for sure,’ said Pompeo, who plays Dr. Meredith Grey on the ABC medical drama. ‘That’s not to blame the victims, that’s just to say … I did go into a room with Harvey Weinstein, I sat at a table with him, I had probably two-and-a-half hours with him.’
Pompeo claims that Weinstein ‘never said anything inappropriate to’ her and ‘never made any sort of physical advance’ toward her adding that she ‘wasn’t in the room alone with’ Weinstein, as was the case with many of the women who accused him of sexual misconduct.
‘I had been sent there by an agent in the middle of the daytime,’ she said. ‘I didn’t think there was anything wrong. I wouldn’t have gone into that room at night … but he did nothing inappropriate toward me.’
Pompeo said she wouldn’t have hesitated to fight back if the disgraced film producer had violated her boundaries.
‘I would have picked up that glass and smashed him across the side of the face with it,’ she said. ‘So I mean, it’s all what we’re willing to tolerate, and in our self-esteem, and what are we going to put up with, and what are we going to compromise to be liked, to be loved, to be accepted: How bad do we want to be in show business?’
The actress also claims that women needed to take responsibility ‘for the signals that we put out, for the messages that we put and the way we present ourselves.’
All of her words left social media users upset and in disbelief.
One user wrote: “it takes two to tango”. “it’s all about what we’re willing to tolerate”. yeah everyone thinks they would stop an abuser getting to them, but then you find yourself in that situation and it is NOT the same. believe women. believe survivors.’
Another said that the actress was victim ‘blaming thru this entire video & is acting like it’s the victims fault & as if the victim wanted it.’
One social media user pointed out the remarks framed against the dozens of stories regarding Weinstein’s predatory behavior as a top Hollywood player for decades.
‘She really said that sexual harassment “takes two to tango” and then she proceeded to say how she wasn’t victim blaming,’ the user wrote.