Unlike family, we chose our friends.
Friend breakups are not taken as seriously as romantic breakups are. We’re expected to move on and simply get over it. Unlike family, we chose our friends. We make a conscious decision to foster friendships. Romantic love can bring us suffering, but the same complexity hasn’t been afforded to friendships. Suddenly you notice how much their absence is painful it was.
Here are a few tips that will help you to deal with the unexpected end of a friendship.
Admit what happened to begin the mourning process.
According to science the loss of a friendship may result in increased sadness and anxiety.
The unsolved problem between you and your friend drifted you away from each other until the distance became too much to overcome. To completely move on it is important to realize that your friend had a role in your life. Once you acknowledge that, it will release you from self-judgment.
Writing a letter is a great way to get closure and learn something from it.
If your friend breakup didn’t have the cleanest ending, it can leave you scrambling to figure out the reasons behind the rift. Writing everything out, the bad times, good times, may be helpful. It can prompt you to look for beneficial takeaways for the future and grapple with any messy, residual feelings that might still be there. It will help if you save the letter for yourself since it’s being used as a vehicle to sort through your own grief. This is your opportunity to say goodbye.
Treat yourself with compassion
Is emotionally exhausting to lose your friend. Especially if your ex-BFF, who used to represent unconditional comfort and support beyond measure, has now become a source of distress and dysfunction. Doing self-care practices can help you to improve your mental state. So don’t be afraid to use whatever coping strategies and feel-good rituals you need to feel better. Do something enjoyable for yourself.